Therefore the common saying is that “Man proposes; God disposes.” Therefore a devotee, he never depends in himself. He never considers himself, “I am independent.” He simply depends on the supreme will of the Lord. That is devotion. “If God desires… If Kṛṣṇa desires…”Whenever we used to ask our Guru Mahārāja something, “Is it going to be happened like that?” some work, he never said, “Yes, it is going to happen. Yes, we are going to do it.” No. “Yes, if Kṛṣṇa desires, it may be.” He never said like that, positively. “If Kṛṣṇa desires.” Actually this is the fact. If Kṛṣṇa desires, God desires, anything wonderful can be done. If He does not desire, however you may try, it will never be done.
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conclusion–we are not the controllers, as there are 5 factors for every action, and the Supersoul is the ultimate one who sanctions every and any activity.